I have always had low self-esteem but it’s getting to the point where I am becoming seriously depressed. I have always thought of myself as ugly and having poor body issues as well. This wouldn’t be so bad if it wasn’t affecting my relationships. I’ve become really cold and insensitive towards the ones that I love. They tell me all the time that I am beautiful inside and out but I can never believe them. Can anyone help me? I don’t want to be this person anymore.
Thanks!
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awww =( lauren! that’s awful. I’m sure you’re actually beautiful, you just don’t see it. I used to be a camp counselor and at the beginning of the camp (first day), we’d make these things called "magic cards" bare with me lol…they sounds pretty stupid but what they are, are little index cards that have something that others& you love about yourself. For example: one kid could have a card that said: I love how funny you are, or I love that you are so sweet and caring. Make like 15 of these cards for yourself. I don’t care how corny it sounds, DO IT! 
It really will help, everyday look at the cards and believe them. To get some ideas, try asking your family members, or friends, what do you like about me? If you ever need to talk email me
awww =( lauren! that’s awful. I’m sure you’re actually beautiful, you just don’t see it. I used to be a camp counselor and at the beginning of the camp (first day), we’d make these things called "magic cards" bare with me lol…they sounds pretty stupid but what they are, are little index cards that have something that others& you love about yourself. For example: one kid could have a card that said: I love how funny you are, or I love that you are so sweet and caring. Make like 15 of these cards for yourself. I don’t care how corny it sounds, DO IT!
It really will help, everyday look at the cards and believe them. To get some ideas, try asking your family members, or friends, what do you like about me? If you ever need to talk email me 
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btw, you might want to consider going to the doctors and getting presribed some medication for depression/social anxiety it sounds like you have it, just talk to your doctor and tell them what you told us
Stop the negative thoughts. Try positive thinking on for size. The term “self-fulfilling prophecy” in relation to self-esteem basically states that whatever you believe about you, whether it be perfect or totally off base, becomes true. If you constantly tell yourself you are stupid or that you will never achieve success, you will in turn act as such. So, make a habit out of saying positive things about yourself and use the self-fulfilling prophecy to your advantage. Look in a mirror and see the good things such as if you have big brown eyes say "Wow I have big cute brown eyes!" or "My freckles are so cute!" Don’t stare at yourself or examine yourself from various angles, searching for flaws. Instead, smile at yourself! THAT is who you really are. And the most important, Learn to appreciate yourself. Everyone has strengths, weaknesses, habits, and principles that define who you are and can make you distinctive. Spend more time focusing on the qualities about yourself that you like and less on the ones that you dislike. You can better accomplish this by taking up hobbies and projects that you can do that will make use of your strengths. If you truly wish to succeed at being in the best shape of your life, indulge yourself by reading Self Help Articles online with Self Improvement topics like this one I’ve posted below.
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Self-help from http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/. Psychology and self help since 1994.